I understand the intimacy issue. Maybe because we have been parents only a short time, I haven't noticed a loss in our intimacy. Or maybe I just expected that it would be a part of parenthood so I haven't worried too much about it. S can chime in... Now I feel like we get some time with just the two of us when our parents come to watch the babe. Then we can go out as a couple.
S and I have had some discussions about when and how we'll move O into his own bed. I feel it's best when he no longer feeds at night. My expectation is that he'll be about two years old. I wonder if people find that shocking, but to me it seems natural.
Just the other day a new parent told me that his son was sleeping through the night. I'm amazed by this. I've read several things that said that there's a biological reason that babies eat during the night. Then again, I don't know all the particulars of their situation--breast v. bottle, parent's bed or crib, etc.
I, too, have heard all the "horror" stories about 7 and 10 year olds in the bed. Right now I am hoping that this isn't the situation with our family, but I'm also keeping an open mind. I don't know the particular situations with those families either. Who am I to judge.
Daddyman is on to something. When you become a parent, you must listen to what your heart tells you. You must evaluate what works best for your family. The babe's five months old and for now he'll be sleeping with us in our bed. We all are getting a restful amount of sleep. Is that true, S? That is, unless it's our own fault of not going to sleep at a reasonable hour...
For some parents, yes, I'm sure they get better rest and, like daddyman, they choose to have the babe(s) sleep in the bassinett(s) or crib(s). By no means to I wish to say that I am superior to them, but, again, S and I have agreed that having the baby sleep with us is the best option for our family.
Another reason that I think it works well for us is that sometimes I am at work. During that time O doesn't eat or sleep as well. At night he can snack as much as he wants. For the most part, he always stays asleep during the entire night, never waking us up by crying or wanting to play. Therefore, I know he's getting at least 8-10 hours of healthy, restful sleep while catching up on his meals.
Wow. Thanks for the comment. I love your idea that the babe is teaching us. Isn't that one of the best things about being a parent? I thought I had the world figured out. Then the babe comes and he teaches me so much more.